It hurts so badly to feel as deeply as I feel for others. My debilitating fear to leave home without my mom being perfectly happy, healthy, and secure is literally putting my young adult life at a stand still and to see her in the pain that she is in every day makes me feel so sad and helpless. Nothing I say or do seems to make anything better. I don’t see how I will ever be able to put myself first or to not feel her crippling pain as my own. I wish my brother would reach out to reconcile. It would make all the difference to not feel so alone and for my mother to have at least three reasons in the world to smile (her three precious grandchildren). I don’t know what to do. I want her to find friends and love and stability and success and acceptance. How will I ever find it if she doesn’t? My heart breaks every day for her. And it’s only going to get harder, it seems, as it always does. I’m so scared that we will never live the lives we deserve to. We just want to love and be loved.
Everything Beyonce does is careful and thought out. Her entire image is perfection crafted from planning ahead. She does not ‘wing it’ or throw things into her performances and public appearances ‘just because’.
What she did at this award show was amazing, especially because of how intentional and thought out it clearly was.
Feminism is a scary word for a lot of people. Many women are afraid of calling themselves feminist because they think it implies anger, hatred of men, or a rejection of traditional femininity.
Beyonce presented everyone watching with two distinct images of what many viewers viewed as two very different women. There is the strong, independent FEMINIST. She is the woman who likes being in control and being in the spotlight. Then there is the WIFE and MOTHER. She is soft, sweet, smiling at the husband and child you can tell she loves and values so much.
For every girl watching who was afraid to be a feminist, afraid to be powerful, because of what she thought she would lose, this is an incredible message. You can be all the things you want to be. You can be both. Feminists can have amazing happy, full lives full of both traditional and modern womanhood.
Feminism means gender should not be a source of persecution or a restriction of your choices. Feminism mean the type of person you should be is based on what you value, not what outside forces pressure you to value because of your gender or biological sex. Shout at the top of your lungs that you are a feminist and proud. Then go and be the exact person that you want to be.